In this episode, for fun, I discuss LOVE, the Psychology of Dating and Mind Games. If you’re interested in why people love or, indeed, date the way they do… you’ll enjoy this episode.

What kind of Unhealthy Beliefs do we have?

I can only be happy with someone… never alone

I can only be attracted to someone who treats me badly

I can only be attracted to someone who I control

I can only be attracted to someone I can’t have

3 Types of Love

Romantic Love

Commitment

Intimacy

3 Types of Attachment Styles

Secure

Anxious

Avoidant

How we create our Ideal Partner

Imprinting – parents

Reactive Imprinting – opposite of parents

Childhood crushes

Society Values

Reactive Society Values

Moviestar qualities

Stereotypes

Social Proof

Authority Poles

Wealth

Attraction

What Codependence is all about

Neediness for another

Tunnel focus

Addicted to person

Steroetypes and Idealized partners

Chemicals of Love

Dopamine

Oxytocin

Serotonin

Why does no contact hurt so much?

Ambiguity

Worst Case Scenario

Ultimate Rejection:

Personal Banishment and Death, Cold Turkey

QUALITIES THAT YOU NEED

INDEPENDENCE

WORTHINESS

PATIENCE

OPENNESS

AWARENESS

SELF-LOVE